Let me start off by saying I had a fabulous vacation away in the Okanagan. Its absolutely perfect there and we always have such a great time. The only downfall was that we were all spread apart and in order for the kids to see their friends and cousins, they would have to ride their bikes down the street and it caused a little stress. Next year we need to plan a little more...
Happy to be back but in a slight funk!
Back to my post title...
We went out on Thursday night and my so called "best friend" was quiet - again! Not much conversation and I could not figure it out. This friendship takes a lot of work. I mean a lot and it seems like its all me. When we do get together, she is negative and I allow her to make her comments. Buuuut, I never make them back and I think she takes advantage of that. I have continued to stay friends and make more of an effort cause she is married to my husband's best friend and my childhood friend. Makes it more complicated! It seems like we have a better email friendship than a personal one. Does that make sense? They have a 2 year old son which I absolutely love...so I am in a funk and a crossroads! Feels good to put it out there!
On to my liver...I have to go for another bloodtest to check my kidneys before I can even make the CT appointment. It still hurts after I eat and I honestly think its affecting my band and how much I can eat. Getting stuck a lot - had a few episodes while away and it totally sucks! It sucks that the sliders have no problems! Every meal, I get tense and don't know what to expect which causes me more grief!
Another slight issue...heartburn. Any suggestions???
I am slowly catching up on all the blogs! Sending happiness and love to you all!
Nella - I take nexium everyday for heartburn. My Dr. is fine with it they just me do an upper GI first to make sure things were good and not too tight. Heartburn can be a indication you're too tight, but for it's just a band side effect. Definitely talk to your Dr.
ReplyDeleteI'm just getting back from a long weekend in NY so I'm catching up too. It kind of sucks that you have to work at that friendship. Have you ever thought of talking to her about how you feel? Maybe she doesn't even realize what she is doing?
ReplyDeleteHey Nella...welcome back. I just went through a horrible bout of being way too tight and heartburn. I had instant relief from the heartburn when I got a litte fill removed.
ReplyDeleteI take Nexium you can also take over the counter Zantac.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you are struggling, I took Prilosec OTC everyday before my surgery for Acid Reflux disease and I find that Heartburn is one of the things I've dealt with most after my surgery even more than Gas... i chew a tums or rolaids or I take one of the prilosec OTC again. I am hoping to not have to go back to everyday. But I don't have problems everyday unless my band is real tight... which seems to be one of the things you are dealing with.... so after it settles down, you may be fine too. Fingers crossed! *Maria*-Blogger from "This one time at BAND Camp..."
ReplyDeleteSorry you are having trouble with your "friend". I certainly understand the feeling, as I've had friends like that before, too!
ReplyDeleteHope your heartburn clears up. I agree that maybe you need to talk to your doctor about it.
I too have problems with my negative sister so choose to spend almost no time with her. If she would just turn her frown upside down sometimes, things might be better between us. It is hard though when it is your hubbies best friends wife. Heartburn-I use Tums or Zantac. Had it before surgery and only a few times since-both before I needed an unfill. I hope they find what the problem is soon and you feel like your old self.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about your friend. I have several of those unfortunately and I recently just let go and decided to leave the ball in their court to make an effort. That way it doesn't fall on me when they get mad. As for the heartburn- stay away from spicy foods, carbonation, gum, and chocolate. Don't lye down after 30 minutes of eating. and if you get it at night, try and sleep slightly upright (place a pillow behind your back).
ReplyDeleteUgh - that is so annoying when the friendship isn't completely mutual and requires so much effort. You deserve the best...I hope she snaps out of it soon and realizes what she has in you.
ReplyDeleteShe hasn't a clue how lucky she is to be able to call you a friend...maybe someone needs to tell her.
ReplyDeleteSorry you aren't feeling to pert, but I hope whatever it is gets better soon. I've never had a true case of heartburn, so I can't be much help there. Sometimes you have to step back and look at a friendship as it really is. Have you talked with her about it? I had to do that with one of my friends and clue her in that friendship, like any relationship is a 2 way street and you can't deal with all her negativity. You don't need toxic friends...Maybe she just doesn't realize it or know any other way. This may be your chance to help her... :)
ReplyDeleteWhy, Why, WHY I haven't been following you is a mystery to me. Heeeeeey Nella *waving*. you have been so sweet to comment on my blog and I have been missing yours. Well none of that anymore. I'm here to stay.
ReplyDeleteI hope everything turns out well with you and the liver and kidney thing.
Your BFF issues....I understand oh to well.