No one but my sisters and husband know about the band...
Now that I have lost over 40lbs, the compliments are just rolling in!
And the dreaded question..."what are you doing??"
Reply: "Working out 7 days a week and small portions!" Well 1 out of the 2 is correct! Small portions...Working out right now is more like 2-3 days a week!
I know my body is my body and I can do whatever I want but I feel wierd with my response! Call me crazy??
I think its time for a fill...I can finally eat somewhat more than a cup. Not looking forward to it! I know!
Hope everyone had a BOOBFULL weekend!
Nella, that's what I say too. I usually just say "Basically, I'm paying a lot of attention to portion control, and am working out a lot." True and true. You do not have to tell anyone you don't want to tell about your band. :)
ReplyDeleteI have the same problem. I really feel bad when it comes to the ladies who have weight problems of their own. I feel like they are beating themselves up over the fact that I've been able to lose weight and they haven't, when the reality is that I've had some help. There are a few I might tell eventually, but for now I am sticking to the same (totally true) response that you are: exercise and portion control. Because really that's what it is.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean! I feel like a fraud too, but what I'm saying is the truth, although somewhat modified.
ReplyDeleteI feel a little awkward, too. I want to tell everyone about the band so people KNOW it isn't just diet and exercise, but I also don't want anyone to know that I have it! Although the compliments aren't rolling in yet for me lol, so I haven't had this issue as much as you it seems!! :P Maybe when I hit 60 pounds people will compliment me more... who knows!!
ReplyDeleteYeah EVERYONE knows about my band pretty much and sometimes I regret telling them because it's like they expect weight to just melt off of me and when it doesn't it's like silence in the room like "duh, didn't she get banded? and she hasn't shrunk overnight?" haha I wouldn't worry about it. It's only their business if you make it their business.
ReplyDeleteEverybody has their own feelings about it. Personally, I have told pretty much anyone. I especially tell overweight people who ask me what I'm doing because it might be something they would consider. If I could help another person find the peace that the band has brought me, it would be a wonderful thing. But please know I'm not judging your decision. I totally understand where you are coming from.
ReplyDeletei had told only a handful of friends and family leading up to surgery (but my mother apparently never got the memo that i was keeping quiet and now tells me she was telling everyone). I 'came out' on Facebook the night of surgery and it really felt freeing to just get it out there. to hell with anyone who doesn't like it. this is my body. my journey. my choice. and it's been interesting.... all i've gotten is love and support in return.
ReplyDeleteYou're not a fraud. I'm also coming to terms with these thoughts. But the truth is, all the band does is put a limit on what you can do-- but there are ways to get around the band (NOT recommended, duh!)
ReplyDeleteYou ARE eating smaller portions, you are chewing more, you are slowing way down-- and if you're exercising-- good news too.
You're rocking!
When do I get to see some pix of this skinny b-tch!??
Hi Nella! Heck, please don't feel like a fraud. You aren't. And if you are, then so am I! But it is your choice. After 5 years, there are still only 7 people that know I am banded! I similarly respond as you do that I am conscious about what I eat and exercise. (OMG - I still crack up everytime about the name of your blog. I have some very close gay men buddies. We always use the "skinny b--ch")
ReplyDeleteEveryone is different, and I don't think of you or anyone who doesn't want to broadcast it as a fraud.
ReplyDeleteand I what does that make me? The one who tells anyone she comes in contact with about the band? It's like I'm telling people so that they can see I'm really trying to lose weight. I don't know I'm goofy today. Been anxious all day for some reason.
ReplyDeleteI'm out at work (not by choice), but not in real life. My immediate family knows, but no one else. And anyone that asks, I just answer as Catherine said... portion control & exercise. That's the God's honest truth. The band is simply a tool you're using to assist with your portion control. It's not a magic bean that's helping you lose. It's a tool.
ReplyDeleteAnd it's nobody's business, unless you want it to be. No fraud!
Blessings,
Robin at Band on the Run
I'm 'in the closet' too! And I feel so guilty when asked directly what I'm doing. I usually say "oh you know - all the usual things".
ReplyDeleteMakes me feel bad when it's someone who struggles with their weight too :(
I'm also in the closet. I am surrounded by freaking skinny people so I rarely even see another fat person! I have no problem telling skinny people I'm "eating much less and working out more."
ReplyDeleteI am feeling like Jess. I tell everyone. But that is sometimes the reaction I get that I should have lost more weight. I always have to explain that i did not have gastric bypass. I have to explain how the band works and then it turns into a big long drawn out process. One of the only reasons I told everyone that asked is because I am a really bad liar. LOL. By the way u are no fraud. Just do what you have been doing.. LUVS you..
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